Thursday, 30 June 2011

The pain, the support and the shitload of hormones

First of all I wanted to say a big thank you to everyone who's supported me lately through my blog or on Twitter. It really means so much, I'm just sorry I haven't been around much to support all of you.

It's been harder than ever for me to update this blog because everything at the moment is so unreal, so big, so awful.

I can't write about the pain my family is going through because there are no words for that. And I still have no idea how I feel about the ivf so I don't know how to write about that either.

On the whole, I feel like I'm hovering around most areas of my life but not really properly taking part in any of them. I want to be there more for my brother, sister-in-law, nephew and my parents but don't always know how to. I've taken compassionate leave from work for a few days this week because I wasn't able to concentrate on anything while I was there, and I've not really been around much to speak to or see my friends.

And of course the ivf. I'm going through the motions of this cycle but I'm not really engaged with it. I'm scared about either outcome this time to be honest, but mostly I don't want to be responsible for causing more pain and grief for my family if it doesn't work out.

I expect everything is compounded by the shitload of hormones in my system now. I extended my down reg injections by a week so I could have a bit more time to get my head round things. So that meant three and a half weeks of Buserilin before I started the Gonal on Monday this week (which they upped to 300 from 225 in ivf1).

My day 5 blood test is tomorrow and day 9 scan next Tuesday so I'll soon know how my follies are progressing. Maybe then things will start to hit home and feel a bit more real. I hope so.

Before I go I wanted to mention The Husband and I celebrated our second wedding anniversary this week. We went out for a lovely meal, exchanged gifts and had a relaxing, fun evening. He lifts my spirits and keeps me going, and he's been such an amazing support to my family these last few weeks. To me, that's invaluable.

In the midst of all the crap, I haven't forgotten for a second how lucky I am to have him by my side.


  1. It's always nice to have a great hubby by your side. Through all the crap, and all the good stuff too!!

  2. You poor, poor thing. I can't imagine going through that kind of loss while on the IVF meds of doom. I had a lil breakdown finding out I had to postpone my pedicure. Albeit, for the 4th time. I can't image losing someone I loved. The hormones make you crazy.

    I hope you get the very best of news tomorrow and Tuesday.

    And congrats on the amazing hubby. He sounds like a keeper!

  3. My sweetpea, I'm so sorry life is being so difficult for you right now, I really wish I could take away your pain.
    You're doing so well, just keep taking one day at a time, these hormones are crazy and so will be making it harder for you. I hope you can seek counselling to help you through too.
    Aww your hubby sounds lovely, remember he's right by your side, keep him close.
    Love Moonie xxx